Working Through the Knots

I had a feeling this COVID-19 situation would bring up things that were hiding under the surface, and it definitely has. One of my favorite thoughts about working through things is from Thich Nhat Hanh. He says when an issue/struggle/situation comes up it forms a knot. If you work through it, it unravels. If you don't, it gets tighter and stronger and is harder to unravel. I knew that for me to keep coaching other women and living well myself, I needed to focus on unraveling my knots during this time.

I'm not going to lie, there is definitely way more that has come up than I thought I would be encountering. I think so much of this is because before when I started doing personal growth a few years ago it was just MY growth I was focusing on. But this time it is my ENTIRE family. I keep thinking it's like having your entire family and everyone else you care about undergo intensive therapy at the same time, but without the ability of help to work through it. Everyone is revealing their knots, but not able to unravel them.

I think every single person and family should have been assigned a coach or therapist at the beginning of all of this. In talking with a good friend who also has done a ton of self growth work, we keep saying, "We are struggling, and we have great skills and processes to help us through. How are people who don't already have these things doing?"

I personally hired a new life coach at the beginning of all of this lockdown. One who specializes in deeper work, like I do. I needed a "me" for me. At the time I started working with her I said, "I probably need to meet every other week. I'm in a really good place, so this is more preventative than anything." And within the first 2 weeks of lockdown I started seeing her weekly, because I started to see how this would be an easy time to get stuck again.

I have been really, really stuck before. For years. I don't want to go back there. I want to keep unraveling and moving forward.