Finding Peace

The path to peace starts with “what is”.

Sometimes I go into familiar situations expecting them to be different than they are and not like the last 10, 20, or 30 times I have experienced them.

Maybe we could call it hope for things to have changed, but sometimes I can get stuck in these expectations. Instead of accepting people for who they are and what they are capable of, I might expect more of them and then feel out of sorts when nothing has changed.

Now, I’m not saying don’t hope for the best. I’m not saying people can’t change (that would be pretty funny as I work with change). I’m saying that changing our expectations is amazingly helpful and healthy. Accepting “what is”.

Last night this allowed me to sit at a dinner and not become offended or frustrated by the lack of depth and meaning in conversation. It allowed me not to take it personally. To know that this was not the place for depth, and that’s okay. I have plenty of relationships I have built around my need for true connection. I can fill myself with depth there.

I always find that starting with “what is” opens a more peaceful path.