When You Don’t Fit the Box

The box (aka the plan) is for an imaginary person who doesn’t exist.

We spend far too much of our lives trying to fit. Trying to fit the plan. Trying to fit what we should be. Trying to mold ourselves into a box that was made for someone else or, honestly, for some imaginary person who doesn’t exist in reality.

Then we spend time beating ourselves up for not being the imaginary person that fits in the box, all the while spending time not thoroughly inhabiting the moments we have in this life.

The “cure” begins with realizing that we are all different, in oh so many ways. This is how we are designed to be. While we have commonalities with so many people, no other person is exactly like you are. Your brain, just like your fingerprint, is uniquely you.

This is not a bad thing. The reason we think it’s bad is that we never learned how to be ourselves. We never learned how to listen in to our own great genius. We never learned how to structure our lives and habits and moments so that they worked with us, not against us.

But this learning is possible. It’s far easier than learning to fit in the box, and far more sustainable.

And it’s way more fun.