It’s Okay to Love Yourself Too

We are taught by society and often by upbringing that recognizing and appreciating our talents is wrong. Voicing them and “owning” them in the world is even worse. It’s often thought to be egotistical. And while there are people who absolutely can turn in that direction and become self serving, none of those people have ever walked into my office.

The more common theme in my office is having incredible, talented, passionate, caring people who do not see their own worth.

I always ask them, “Would you diminish the worth of someone you love?” And we begin our discussion of how recognizing their own strengths, in a humble way, does nothing but add to the good in the world.

I would love to say this is a quick, “Oh, now I get it! All set! I now love and appreciate myself!”, but I would be lying. We have so much programming running in our brains that tells us that we are not enough. This is usually long ingrained and very hard wired. But…the brain has neuroplasticity, which means it can be rewired and we can develop new ways.

When my clients begin to truly own who they are it always brings tears to my eyes. They are finally able to glimpse the greatness that I, and so many others, have seen in them all along.

And that changes everything.

Happy Valentine’s Day Beautiful Souls!