Sparks of Magic

Meet Zara (not her real name, but a rad name regardless).  A mom, wife, faithful friend, and accomplisher of a multitude of things.  More important than all that though, a woman who discovered she actually has strengths and, from that discovery, found passion for her life and a renewed relationship with not only herself, but her husband, kids, friends, family and even her faith.

If you ever met Zara, you would think she had it all.  She is slim and beautiful and dresses the way you would love to and lives in an amazing house and has a beautiful family and does all the things, all the things we would consider to be “success”.  If you talked to her friends or family they would gush about how amazing and kind generous she is.  However, when we first met, she said she felt like everyone around her had these amazing gifts and talents and were using them to do great things in their lives, but she didn’t feel like she had any gifts, talents or strengths.

Zara and I started coaching so she could find her passion in life.  As always when I begin working with someone, I had no idea where exactly our work together would lead, only that it would take us on a journey of insight and lead to her finding joy and moving forward on a path she had not ventured on before.  

On this journey she discovered a multitude of amazing things.  She discovered that the “little things” she did in her life, that were nothing special to her, were actually pretty big things that held some of her greatest strengths (yes, she had amazing strengths!).  She discovered that she and her husband had something great in common when it came to their goals in life, even though they looked completely different from the outside.  Discovering this allowed her to have a much deeper connection to her husband.  She discovered that she was just as talented and gifted as all the other women around her.  And she discovered that she had passions in life, and that her passions had always been there, she just didn’t know what to look for and how to use them.

All of these discoveries, these insights, were not because I told her, “Zara, you are awesome at XYZ .”  They didn’t come from her friends and family telling her how amazing she was and what her talents were, although they had tried.  These insights came from her.  I always say that it’s far different to know something in your head, usually from reading it or being told by other people, than it is to know something in your heart. 

When you are able to really embrace something, to truly soak it in and fully believe it, that’s when magic can happen.